Thanx to the world wide web I have an audience at four in the morning.The phrase 'Lend me your ears' gets a completely new meaning these days.Lend me you webspace or surf time would be more appropriate in this context.
I would like to revesit the topic of EQ for the benifit of us all but a little later. And we would collectively try to improve our EQ grading!
A thought came to me about how I became what I am and ofcourse the context plays a very important part of what we grow up to be.I was raised by both parents with post graduate level of education,both were in a profession where social contact was maximum being a doctor and a teacher.And on top of that my father was in the forces.So the basic values which I grew up with , remembeingr that growing up values become your second nature,are:
1. Lot of stress on good education was prime.I remember changing two buses and walking just to get to a good school as a child.My mother completely devoted her time and energy to that aim and she still is!
2.Learning good communication and social skills.My father had great interpersonal skills.He was a man that the mangement books talk about....literally! I would presume that his skills were his nature rather than aquired.The parents always made sure that my brother and I had our communication skills honned.I remember participating in many an extempores ,that was mostly on my parents encouragement.Being very social our house was always buzzing with dinner parties and friends coming over.
3.And the third basic value would be decipline.That ofcourse comes from the Indian Army which still upholds the British legacy.
I have imbibed in me all of these or rather most of these and genereally grew up to be very amicable and desciplined person with good education.All of there I am proud of but never arrogant about.Remember I grew up with them so they are not achivements but rather second nature.
I have observed that people tend to behave in a manner in which they have been brought up and so our context plays a great role.Some people around me are reasonably educated and in good jobs but have terrible communication.Other have very good communication skills but terrible lack of descipline which makes them utter complete non sense at times.A few have little education(here I imply the broadning of perspective which education brings.) and hence have a myopic view of the world.And a few are plain jealous of anyone having any permutations of these essential skills.
Here .I in no way imply that I am the know all of everything.I am full of imperfections and am constantly learning!
My husband and I hail from completely different backgrounds and we have to constantly try to be on the same platform to see where each other is coming from.So with marrying him I got into completely unknown territory(thats my millitary background talking).I still have to make more than an effort to fit in his world which in turn is made of friends and family from his sort of cultural context.
They speak very different language and sometimes I struggle to get catch the subtle cultural nuiansces to feel comfortable.Now I have made in my mind cultural equvivalents from my context of things they say.So I know when a person says this it actually means this!!
I did try to blend in initially but sooner than later I realise this was a futile exersise..........and I would not try to undo my entire life's learning and my parents utter devotion towards an informed upbringing. ...........after all ...........................I am not a colour I am a person!
I would like to revesit the topic of EQ for the benifit of us all but a little later. And we would collectively try to improve our EQ grading!
A thought came to me about how I became what I am and ofcourse the context plays a very important part of what we grow up to be.I was raised by both parents with post graduate level of education,both were in a profession where social contact was maximum being a doctor and a teacher.And on top of that my father was in the forces.So the basic values which I grew up with , remembeingr that growing up values become your second nature,are:
1. Lot of stress on good education was prime.I remember changing two buses and walking just to get to a good school as a child.My mother completely devoted her time and energy to that aim and she still is!
2.Learning good communication and social skills.My father had great interpersonal skills.He was a man that the mangement books talk about....literally! I would presume that his skills were his nature rather than aquired.The parents always made sure that my brother and I had our communication skills honned.I remember participating in many an extempores ,that was mostly on my parents encouragement.Being very social our house was always buzzing with dinner parties and friends coming over.
3.And the third basic value would be decipline.That ofcourse comes from the Indian Army which still upholds the British legacy.
I have imbibed in me all of these or rather most of these and genereally grew up to be very amicable and desciplined person with good education.All of there I am proud of but never arrogant about.Remember I grew up with them so they are not achivements but rather second nature.
I have observed that people tend to behave in a manner in which they have been brought up and so our context plays a great role.Some people around me are reasonably educated and in good jobs but have terrible communication.Other have very good communication skills but terrible lack of descipline which makes them utter complete non sense at times.A few have little education(here I imply the broadning of perspective which education brings.) and hence have a myopic view of the world.And a few are plain jealous of anyone having any permutations of these essential skills.
Here .I in no way imply that I am the know all of everything.I am full of imperfections and am constantly learning!
My husband and I hail from completely different backgrounds and we have to constantly try to be on the same platform to see where each other is coming from.So with marrying him I got into completely unknown territory(thats my millitary background talking).I still have to make more than an effort to fit in his world which in turn is made of friends and family from his sort of cultural context.
They speak very different language and sometimes I struggle to get catch the subtle cultural nuiansces to feel comfortable.Now I have made in my mind cultural equvivalents from my context of things they say.So I know when a person says this it actually means this!!
I did try to blend in initially but sooner than later I realise this was a futile exersise..........and I would not try to undo my entire life's learning and my parents utter devotion towards an informed upbringing. ...........after all ...........................I am not a colour I am a person!
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